Hi there lovely readers! We all love a well written story or a bloody good yarn don’t we? My dad was a seasoned journalist who wrote the former, my step dad, quite the raconteur, spun the latter. I suspect that’s where I inherited a passion for the written word. But do I have a cracking good yarn worth sharing?
To find out, I combined my love of travel and writing and took myself off to a writer’s retreat conducted in the Tuscan mountains of Italy by the wonderful Lisa Clifford. (Read about that journey here: On finding one’s voice) From there I holed up in the Cinque Terre on the coast and started writing. Thing is, I was struggling to surface from a tsunami of grief at the time, and although my writing was cathartic as I spoke my truth, I questioned if the outcomes would be worth sharing beyond the laptop. That was 10 years ago.
Have you always wanted to shape your words into a compelling story worth sharing? Super news fellow aspiring writers! Lisa (The Art of Writing) is bringing that same very special writing experience to Brisbane. In her words:
Even if you’ve simply been thinking of a story idea. Let’s write it. Even if you’ve never put pen to paper. Let’s do it.
Now had I written those words, I’d have thrown a few exclamation marks in – my way of demonstrating my enthusiasm – something I need to temper? And what about that sentence – passive or active? And did I create a compelling call to action? I know Lisa and guests will have the answer.
Your story might be a novel, a memoir or a story line that’s stalled. Perhaps you need time to dream about that seed of an idea, or your keen to improve your blogging? Designed to bring your writing to life, Lisa and her guests will help you nail down the essentials of your story. I’ve signed up and hope you can join me!
Brisbane Art of Writing Retreat – The Essentials of Story
Hi, there lovely people, does the word ‘networking’ strike fear in your heart? If yes, well, you’re not alone. Let me tell you about my delightful client, Norm. Sweet and shy, a man of the monosyllable, a man who, at the word ‘networking’, suddenly developed an extraordinary fascination with the exit door. The conversation went thus:
Norm: ‘Not comfortable talking to strangers, don’t even talk to my wife, don’t know any people, don’t like to invade other people’s privacy.’
Jane:Norm, you’re not alone; the concept of networking strikes fear in many a heart. Can I give you a little reassurance, though? None are entirely accurate so let’s address those worries ok? And when I’m finished, you’ll be saying, ‘Networking? I’ve got this!’
Norm: Ermmm...(not sure he actually heard me – something to do with those glazed eyes)
I’m not comfortable talking to strangers…
Networking isn’t about talking to strangers; that’s cold calling. Networking is simply talking to your friends and the friends you’ve not yet met. Having a chat, getting and giving advice, sharing information, and being introduced to other people. Still sceptical?
I don’t know many people…
Just say you’ve moved to a brand new town. Your new neighbour leans over the fence to welcome you. An hour later, you’ve learned the name of the best hairdresser, doctor, dentist, the fastest way to the beach, closest supermarket, and the worrying traits of the dog over the road. You’ve made a friend, and you’ve secured a raft of helpful info thanks to asking a couple of questions. That was informal networking.
I’m too shy…
Are you comfy chatting to fellow work colleagues and clients? What about family members, that bloke beside you yelling ‘carn tigers!’ at the footy, the guys busting beers by the BBQ, the girls supping champers in the kitchen, the fellow school drop-off Mums and Dads? All beautiful fonts of knowledge. And these people know other people. Considering the six degrees of separation concept, I call our city 1.5 degrees!
The folk I know can’t help me…
Would it surprise you that up to 85% of jobs are found through networking, according to research by PayScale? An example…
I urgently needed to employ six new team members. The time taken to advertise, cull applications, phone screen, conduct background research, interview and finally, make a job offer was not an option. Instead, I reached out to my LinkedIn network, fellow team members and friends and, within three weeks, had my new additions on-boarded. Each came highly recommended, reinforcing that it’s all about the ‘people who know you, know what you do and can speak well of both.’
I don’t like to invade other people’s privacy…
I’ve found that most people want to help you; they were once in your shoes, and they remember who helped them when they needed advice and guidance. From finding a new job to moving ahead in our existing, networking should play a massive part in our career paths.
I don’t know how to network…
It’s simple: find a good friend, pick up the phone, organise a catch-up, and have a coffee or a beer after work – informal networking right there.
For those in the job market, reassure your friend that you don’t expect them to know of a job for you, merely that you’d like to benefit from their advice and guidance. Focus your conversation on getting the advice and information you need (don’t forget to reciprocate) and ask for referrals, ‘who else would you recommend I chat to?’ Afterwards, send a thank you note and an invitation to connect on LinkedIn so that you both stay on each other’s radar and then keep them in the loop as you progress.
Spending a little time putting yourself out there through networking can help you gain more visibility, particularly with those who have decision-making capacity so go for it. Back to Norm…
Norm:I suppose I could start with my friend Martin and may test out my commercial with him?
Jane:Great idea, Norm! And you might even want to ask him if he knows anyone you should be talking to in the companies you’re targeting?
Norm:Steady on, Jane!
Jane:Have fun building those new friendships, Norm. Oh, and did you know that you’re building social capital when networking, which increases your emotional IQ. And this is often listed as the No. 1 most valuable career skill.
Three weeks later…
Norm: (excited phone call): Jane! I just received a job offer! My meeting with Martin really relaxed me, he introduced me to someone else, and it went from there. Thanks so much for convincing me to give it a go.
Jane: (thought bubble – Norm, that’s the most words you’ve ever shared) This is brilliant news, Norm, congratulations! Let’s go celebrate over a (network) coffee!
Happy not so new year, lovely readers! I’m putting it out there now – this is going to be a splendid 2022 OK? All things considered, it couldn’t be any worse than the last two now could it? What’s more, I was recently recommended a handy little tool designed to help you make your 2022 exactly that – splendid. Gonna tell you about that in just a sec. First though, let’s look at some of the more onerous outcomes of the pandemic, aside from the incessant headlines that saturated our screens regarding our mortality and the loss of so many loved ones…
Negatives
We’ve seen ‘the great resignation’ as folk realise they don’t need to be in an office to do their work, much less in their hometown. We’ve seen burnout as the day’s bookend rituals – the commute, for instance – have blurred the boundaries between work and play. We’ve seen a lift in divorces as families juggle multiple and oft conflicting priorities of family, homeschooling, wellbeing, self-maintenance and more during an endless stream of lockdowns. I could go on. An example…
Upon greeting me with a happy new year, a girlfriend immediately exclaimed – ‘what a shit of a year last year was!’ In an attempt to lift her spirits, I responded by saying ‘but you married the love of your life, that must count for something?‘ It didn’t. I learnt that she’d personally organised her entire engagement party, her wedding and then the sad business of burying her Mum all amidst the evershifting ‘on-again, off-again lockdown rules. it’s no wonder she was feeling frayed and exhausted. Another victim of a pandemic that continues to demand our attention. The argument between the vaccinated and the non, the cost of RAT tests, returning to the office, food and supply shortages for instance. Heck, just writing that I feel exhausted! But there have been upsides to the last two years. Quite a few, in fact.
Positives
Environmentally, we saw planet earth the way it used to be, could be, should be, when the world stood still during our initial lockdowns. (Here’s a link to a little story I wrote about that: Ten delightful environmental developments just for you) We recognised that we don’t need an office to do our work. That commutes take valuable hours from our family time. We identified that we can be quite creative when we have time on our hands. We relished the sun on our faces after an isolation event and we realised that heading to the beach was far more nurturing than that long-awaited nail salon appointment. In fact, jobs are now aplenty, the unemployment rate lower than pre covid and more. We’ve had our own seismic shift!
Why is it worth focusing on the positives? Simply because the last two years have given us the opportunity to recalibrate. To reset. And that tool I mentioned earlier? It’s perfect for helping you do exactly that. If you’re wanting to make 2022 a splendid one, it just takes a little reflection and planning. The perfect tool for doing this? ‘YearCompass’.
How to make your year a splendid one…
YearCompass is is a booklet that helps you reflect on the past year and make plans for the next one. The tool has a set of carefully selected questions and exercises designed to help you uncover your patterns and design a great year for yourself. And it’s free! Here’s a link: Year Compass
The booklet has two distinct parts. The first half will help you review, learn from, and celebrate the year you’re leaving behind. The second half focuses on the future. You’ll be dreaming, planning, and preparing to get the most out of the new year.
Your time investment?
Grab a pen or a pencil, lock in a couple of hours of uninterrupted focus, and come with an open and honest mind. Can you share it with your family or friends? You betcha! A friend of mine worked with her family on their Year Compass while camping across Christmas, and found it was a fantastic way to connect, engage and truly understand what everyone in the family was aspiring to.
Invite in those loved ones, print out a booklet for each of them, pour your drink of choice and find a comfortable space in which to relax with your YearCompass. Everyone should fill out their own, but you can take breaks to discuss the exercises and share your thoughts and feelings. (Just be mindful of people’s boundaries)
Go forth and conquer your plans for 2022 and enjoy!
On a personal note
On a personal note, lovely readers, am jotting just one more post relating to careers (why career plan at the request of a reader) then I’m hanging up the blogging boots until the opportunity returns to write about my one true passion, the one that brought me into the blogging realm in the first place – EXPLORING THE WORLD. Stay Tuned! xx