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There’s always lentils love…

Hi lovely readers, is it just me, or are you too feeling like your in some kind of weird apocalyptic limbo-land? It really hit home when a lovely stranger said to me as I stared at the empty shelves in the supermarket – ‘there’s always lentils love – nobody eats ’em?‘  

Last week: business as usual – work, future strategising with colleagues, movie night, shopping, gym, chatting with mates, dining out, sleeping.

This week: The COVID-19 paradigm shift.

Next week: business as (un)usual – home desk work, Teams video future strategising with colleagues, Netflix movie night, online shopping, YouTube yoga, FaceTiming mates, dining on Lentils (the last can standing in the supermarket), fitful sleeping.

Surrounded by media sensationalism, drowning in speculation, struggling to separate fact from fake, cognizant of an undercurrent of fear, clinging to glimmers of positivity, ruminating on what the world will look like afterward – no wonder we’re feeling anxious and stressed.

The structures that drove our time—commute schedules, work schedules, activities schedules—all disappearing as we adapt to working from home, distance our friends and find new ways to entertain ourselves and the kids. To help myself, and maybe you too, I’ve rounded up the expert’s suggestions for designing an effective schedule to alleviate some of that stress.

SLEEP

The dramatic increase in COVID-19 related news means I’m staying up later engrossed in the latest headlines, my normal commute no longer exists, my work schedule is in disarray, and that’s all derailing my sleep schedule. You too? To build an ideal sleep schedule, try this:

First, determine the time you will want to begin work, taking into account your now reduced number of morning commitments. From there, work backward. E.g. if you like to snatch 7 hours of sleep and need to wake by 6 a.m., plan to snuggle into bed by 11 p.m. at the latest. Goes without saying that giving yourself one hour before bedtime to wind down by turning off phones, computers, TV and other screens by 10 p.m. will also help. My phone has a bedtime setting that shuts calls and activities down at a predetermined time.

The loss of that commute alone can also be an opportunity for you to rest better than ever, helping you become more productive while also boosting your mood and immune system.

WORK

My new work from home schedule is still shaky but I’m keen to maximise my productivity, hence my Outlook diary is filled with colour coded reminders on day to day tasks that would normally be second nature. The experts say it helps to keep the surrounding activities as similar as possible too. E.g. if you walk to and from work or public transport, take a walk around the neighborhood to mimic that habit. If you lunch with a coworker, eat lunch with them via a video call. Why? Because our mind already has deeply embedded patterns, keeping the same schedule allows us to take advantage of already established ways of doing things.

CHILDCARE

Working from home with kids underfoot? Yep, goes without saying a new schedule will be needed for both yourself and your family. Parenting friends say their kids thrive on structure, so developing routines similar to the ones they are used to at school and at daycare will help prevent behavioral issues and promote harmony at home. They say that managing this by setting aside specific times for meals, physical activity, learning, and play helps.

If the kids are old enough to take care of themselves, work with them on a schedule that will make the best use of their time. E.g. If they love their sports, help them come up with a strength and conditioning plan. If they have academic pursuits or hobbies, help them brainstorm ways they can still learn and grow, despite them being kept from their normal activities. For younger babes, organising childcare into shifts that work for both. If unable to split shifts, they are making the most of time before the kids wake, during nap times, or after they go to bed, keeping the less challenging work for when they’re up and about.

EXERCISE

Fitting in physical activity can be easier thanks to the loss of commute times, however, our typical routines are usually built around access to gyms, studios, and pools, most now either barred or shut down. No couch potatoing here thanks to YouTube videos, strength-training with the lentil cans or free weights and daily walks outdoors. Even if unable to practice with your sports team, you can still work on techniques, like kicking a ball or shooting free throws. Another way to handle anxiety, reduce stress and sleep well.

RECHARGE

This one’s essential. Why not replace time spent on social media or watching the news with something that generates true relaxation. It could be exercise, praying, reading, listening to music, spending time with your family, or doing a creative hobby. Mine includes researching 54 ways with Lentils and cooking with my loved one, having deeper conversations and we are both working on exercising mindfulness and giving meditation a go, all wonderful ways of managing these stressful times.

We may not know what the future holds but by giving ourselves a schedule we can still make the most of the present. In fact, I’m off to indulge in a spot of meditation now.

Kicking ‘to-do’s’ to the kerb

Well, hello, there lovely peoples. Do you love a good old ‘to-do’ list as much as me? I have a tidy little app called ‘Reminders’ which pops up on all my devices serving as a constant…well… ‘reminder’ of all the things I haven’t done. As I stare at it, the angel perched on my left shoulder gently chides…tick off those pesky items, and you can have that glass of Champers sweetheart. The devil on the other swishes his tail and mutters ‘Nah!…pour those bubbles bitch, the list can wait! Yep, it’s time to kick those ‘to-do’s’ to the curb!

Pour those bubbles sweetheart, the list can wait!

Tired of listening to the two of them bickering, I realised drastic measures were required STAT! Always growing, never completed, my lists an essential element of both work and leisure yet oh! So exhaustive. Well, according to entrepreneur Robyn Scott, it doesn’t have to be like this.

Instead of an endless list of tasks, Robyn has a sweet little trick that will completely change how you think about your to-dos. Her suggestion? Make your tasks emotional – create a few categories that appeal to how doing that task makes you feel. For example: “highly helpful” for introductions and advice-giving, “basic decency” for thank you notes and keeping promises, or “massive relief” for tax returns and booking travel

Alex Cavoulacos’ A Mind-Blowing New Way to Think About Your To-Do List‘ (The Muse) suggests making the emotion dramatic. Alex uses headings like ‘triumphant,’ and ‘massive relief,’ for she finds this increases the allure. She also experiments with fun and fear. States or emotions on her list might be positive, or she’ll use terms like ‘avoids a physical and psychological meltdown,’ and it works for her.

‘Kick my Ass’ – kicks procrastination to the curb!

Well, I adopted their suggestions lovely readers. ‘This Week’, This Month’, ‘Goals’ and other mundane titles that blurred into one endless nag have now morphed into a bunch of fun expectations. ‘Reputation Saving‘ takes care of RSVPs, thank you’s, non-urgent responses. ‘Ass Kicking’ kicks exercise procrastination to the curb and ‘Culture Craving’ creates a ‘must book’ that art, theatre, musical event. ‘Money Grabbing‘ gets the coffers topped up with voucher claims, refunds and tax time preparation. ‘Soul Nurturing’ reminds me to take time for me – a massage, facial, coffee with a friend. And more.

My procrastination significantly reduced, and a satisfying tick against each of my emotionally focused items…oh wait? Did I hear the gentle popping of a Champagne cork?

2020 – it’s all about work AND play!

Well hello lovely readers, welcome to 2020! It’s gonna be a good year, a good decade, don’t you think? And Indulge Divulge is here to help make it so. Designed to nurture in both work and play, this year, the blog will focus on self-love – looking after YOU. 

If your inner dialogue is no longer enamoured with the ‘I work longer hours than you do’ badge of honour, isn’t it time to stop, pause and reflect? After all, burnout and the associated mental health issues only benefit your Psyche and Doctor, not you, your loved ones or your employer. Soooo…let’s start by looking at finding a little more self-nurturing balance here, OK? 

One of my work colleagues enjoys exercising her artistic muscles. Digital, paint, acrylics, charcoal, pencils, crayons, Instagram layout, you name it. So much so that she consciously puts aside time from her work and a demanding young family to focus on this, her form of self-nurturing. It’s meditative and gives her creative satisfaction, reflecting in her family interactions and work. 

Having an enjoyable hobby—whether creating a patchwork quilt for your bestie’s new baby, hitting the ski slopes of Japan’s latest resort or practising pirouettes in ballet class—there are all sorts of well-documented benefits, from lower levels of stress to increased sense of belonging and purpose. As proven by my colleague, hobbies can make you more focused and enthusiastic when you’re on the job, and, depending on the hobby, the associated skills you gain can also make you better at your job.  

So, having a hobby that you love can do good things for your life and your job, but what if you don’t actually have a hobby you enjoy? You’re not alone. I frequently hear from transitioning candidates ‘I don’t have any hobbies other than ferrying the kids to and from theirs, my life just feels like all work and no play’. Sadly, ‘all work’ didn’t keep them their jobs now, did it? 

There are plenty of people who don’t have or don’t know how to find a hobby. But that doesn’t mean they can’t find one. Whether you’re 25 or 85 years old—it’s never too late to hop on board the hobby train! Here are a few strategies you can use to find a hobby you truly love.

1. Transform existing pleasures into a hobby

Even if you don’t have something that you consider a hobby, you’ll have activities that you enjoy. Chances are, there’s a way to transform these into a full-fledged hobby. I like to ask my candidates what they enjoy doing for fun. Such things as ‘eating’ or ‘watching sports’ could easily be turned into hobbies such as ‘taking cooking classes’ or ‘joining a hockey team.’

Have you watched every stand-up special on Netflix…twice? Try taking an improv class. Is your favourite part of the day playing with your dog? Try volunteering with a rescue organization. Love reading about random pop culture facts on the internet? Try joining a trivia team.

My example? I love writing, and I love to travel. My blog actually originated from a desire to write about my travels. In turn, this means I know how to build websites, and I’m good at helping people articulate their brand in written form – both beneficial to my job. Figuring out how to build off the things you already love to do is the easiest way to find hobbies that you’ll enjoy—making you a better, more well-rounded person and employee. 

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