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For the home enhancers, the foodies, the wanderers

Killing small talk…

Unseasonably warm isn’t it?  

Hello, lovelies. Christmas. I personally love it. Particularly the ‘we simply must have drinks before Christmas darling!’ spike in my calendar of events. But not everyone enjoys the socialising aspect of the festive season. “All that bloody small talk, I never know what to say, particularly at the office Xmas party where I feel obliged to talk to people I don’t even know!” cried one particularly distressed friend. I said gurl, I have just the thing for you and sent a link to this post, originally published in 2018.  Her response? “Babe you may have just saved my liver for I can now substitute gulping confidence-building alcohol with great conversation!” (love that reader!!) For all of you suffering the same fate – here’s a repost:

Ever found yourself plunged into the realm of small talk and struggling to come up with something more interesting than the weather? Stared at a dating site pondering witty/clever/  sophisticated questions to ask an interested party?  A co-worker in an elevator, an acquaintance at an industry event, a complete stranger at a networking event? It happens to us all. ‘Yes, it is unseasonably warm for this time of year isn’t it?’ Boring.

Let’s kill the small talk!

If you’ve found yourself talking about topics you have no interest in or have already discussed one too many times—just for something to say, check out this great little article by Aja Frost (making small talk so much easier). After reviewing, I started throwing a few out there and along the way, managed to learn fabulous things about people that I’d never have picked up in ‘normal’ conversation. No more awkward silences or boring small talk folks! Here’s a starter kit of unexpected, thought-provoking questions that will evoke more than a mere yes or no response. And there’s something for everyone!

For the culture cravers…

  1. Are you reading any good books right now? How about shows? What would you recommend?
  2. Do you have any podcast suggestions for my commute?
  3. What’s the last movie that made you cry? Or laugh aloud?
  4. Whom would you want to be your Amazing Race partner?
  5. If they made a movie about you, which movie star would you choose to play you? Your family members? Why?

 For the foodies…

  1. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  2. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?
  3. What’s your go-to comfort food? Or the food your Mum always made for you on your birthday?
  4. Does your family have any “secret” or famous recipes?
  5. What’s your favourite restaurant that other people might not know about

For late-night reveries…

  1. If you were in charge of picking the eighth wonder of the world, what would you choose?
  2. What do you wish you had placed in a time capsule 15 years ago?
  3. What’s the strangest compliment you’ve ever received?
  4. Have you ever thought of a cool invention or company, only to discover someone had already invented or started it?
  5. What would be your ideal superpower?
  6. BONUS Q: If you could invite 5 people, dead or alive, to your dinner party, who would you choose? Why?

For the work buddies…

  1. If you weren’t working here, what would you probably be doing right now?
  2. What’s the craziest thing a boss has ever asked you to do?
  3. Would you rather work four 10-hour days or five eight-hour days?
  4. If you were guaranteed to be successful, what job would you want?
  5. What’s the best career advice you’ve ever received? How about the worst?

 For the travel-hungry…

  1. If you could fly anywhere for free, where would you go?
  2. What’s the coolest road trip you’ve ever been on?
  3. Where’s the last place you traveled? What did you do there?
  4. If you could take a workcation or sabbatical, where would you go and what would you do?
  5. What’s your favourite thing to do around here on the weekends?

For the daters…

  1. What did you think you were going to be when you grew up?
  2. Do you have any hidden talents or surprising hobbies?
  3. What was the must-have accessory or item when you were growing up?
  4. What’s the most unbelievable thing that’s ever happened to you?
  5. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

Bet just asking one or two of these questions and you’ll be engaged for hours. Best order another wine (sorry liver)!

What questions do you like to ask to jumpstart a cool discussion?

Kickstarting your Mojo…

Happy New Year lovely readers! Brand new year, brand new resolutions yeah? I love a good resolution, problem is, the minute I start implementing those well-intentioned plans, the good old work/life treadmill starts up and before I know it, my Mojo has packed its bags and flown out to some exotic dream destination. A few years ago It had good reason to for I’d just returned from six months wandering Europe at leisure, free from schedules, deadlines and accountabilities other than to myself, ‘cept for the occasional challenge of deciphering train schedules…and the thought of that eventual return to normality.

That year, my Mojo chose to stay on a particularly spectacular little beach on the Côte d’Azur while I desperately struggled to resume the life I once knew.

Emotions ran riot. My writing suffered. I spent endless energy searching for the next big thing, lost appreciation for what I already had and felt ashamed for doing so. Had my company not offered stimulating projects, my posse of loving friends their quiet support, and the discovery of four simple steps (outlined below) I’m sure my whining would have resulted in a one way ticket to a land far, far away, an airport escort and a chorus of ‘don’t come back y’hear!’

Has your Mojo given you the slip?

If your Mojo’s taken a holiday, feel reassured that a couple of days in a downward direction won’t kill you. However, as I found, it’s extremely easy to keep heading downhill. The climb back up is way more challenging. In fact, it requires constant effort.

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