Sheltering from media sensationalism…

Hello, lovely readers – first up, how are you? Safe and well and settling into this new self-isolating way of life? My heart is with you all.

Like most of you, I’m now working from home, currently from the dining table of the lovely Silver-Fox’s apartment on the coast. Surrounded by work-related detritus, headphones in; my work pivoting to 100% virtual delivery within weeks of the COVID-19 alert. Semi-retired, the poor man feels the need to vacate his own home to give me video conferencing privacy. This is the new norm. Similar stories the world over as we settle into partner, children, pet co-oping.

Until recently, I had been observing how humanity went about managing the physical, mental and emotional elements of social isolation with relative dispassion. No kids or pets to consider, comfortable with my own company, healthy, cared for, life looking easy compared to so many out there battling the ramifications of the pandemic. Then last Sunday I awoke in a miserable ‘we’re all going to hell in a basket’ mood, no doubt thanks to an overdose of media sensationalism. Fuelled with a mental bitch slap, a cuppa tea, and a compassionate conversation with the Fox, it was then that we made a pact – to focus only on the positive. Here’s where I started:

Finding calm in an ocean of uncertainty…

That view of the Gold Coast skyline from my work station. – ocean to the left, a canal below and Harbour Town, the Dublin Docks Pub and Dan Murphys in the foreground. The once packed car-parks now empty, except for Dan’s. Dan’s still making a roaring, albeit socially distanced, trade. God bless Dan!

The new commute – bathroom, kitchen, work station. – the rush hour replaced with a leisurely breakfast, work-suitable tops over leisure-wear bottoms, and bottomless cups of tea.

Seeing the faces of the entire national team on video conferences. The intimacy of working with colleagues in their personal spaces, meeting their pets, children, partners, parents, learning of their favourite tipples during virtual Friday happy hour drinkies. More connected than ever, despite the real world ‘disconnect’.

Gaining a deeper understanding of my team’s personalities outside the work-place environment. The socialite, grappling with solo living and an anxious dog. The single dad, coaching his sensitive teens on the differences between fact and sensationalist reporting. A husband in lock-down in another country, another in another state with borders closed. A young mum, building a work routine around two little people demanding 24/7 parental attention.

Long evening walks on the wide semi-empty beaches while savoring deep conversations, gulping the crisp ocean scented air, attuned to the cry of the seagulls, the feel of sand between toes, warm ocean ripples tickling the ankles.

Perfecting the putt on the St Andrews Golf Course – aka the mini Putt-Putt assembled along the lounge floor. The 19th hole bar, aka the fridge beer offer. Assembling the Wii – released from hibernation, dusted off and ready to provide some old fashion exercise and even more amusement.

Actively seeking out good news stories, kind words, good deeds – humanity at it’s best. Marveling at the Venetian canals, now so translucent, you can see fish thanks to the cessation of water traffic. The air clear above China. The social media shared positive images, good news stories, hints, and tips for home-schooling kids. The Mum teaching her grade two kid the grade four curriculum, the result of an accidental download. Folk having virtual parties, work teams showing up in crazy outfits.

Not to mention, a kindle loaded with books, iPhone with calming, meditational apps and Spotify sound-tracks, a fridge full of healthy food, oh! and enough loo-rolls to last another two weeks. As well, a considerable interest in what our world might look like post-pandemic.

Stay tuned for the next blog which will feature a round-up of people’s book, movie, Netflix marathon recommendations, apps and everything calming I can think of.
Meanwhile, drop a line in the comments box to share your coping ideas.
Stay safe lovely people. x

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There’s always lentils love…

Hi lovely readers, is it just me, or are you too feeling like your in some kind of weird apocalyptic limbo-land? It really hit home when a lovely stranger said to me as I stared at the empty shelves in the supermarket – ‘there’s always lentils love – nobody eats ’em?‘  

Last week: business as usual – work, future strategising with colleagues, movie night, shopping, gym, chatting with mates, dining out, sleeping.

This week: The COVID-19 paradigm shift.

Next week: business as (un)usual – home desk work, Teams video future strategising with colleagues, Netflix movie night, online shopping, YouTube yoga, FaceTiming mates, dining on Lentils (the last can standing in the supermarket), fitful sleeping.

Surrounded by media sensationalism, drowning in speculation, struggling to separate fact from fake, cognizant of an undercurrent of fear, clinging to glimmers of positivity, ruminating on what the world will look like afterward – no wonder we’re feeling anxious and stressed.

The structures that drove our time—commute schedules, work schedules, activities schedules—all disappearing as we adapt to working from home, distance our friends and find new ways to entertain ourselves and the kids. To help myself, and maybe you too, I’ve rounded up the expert’s suggestions for designing an effective schedule to alleviate some of that stress.

SLEEP

The dramatic increase in COVID-19 related news means I’m staying up later engrossed in the latest headlines, my normal commute no longer exists, my work schedule is in disarray, and that’s all derailing my sleep schedule. You too? To build an ideal sleep schedule, try this:

First, determine the time you will want to begin work, taking into account your now reduced number of morning commitments. From there, work backward. E.g. if you like to snatch 7 hours of sleep and need to wake by 6 a.m., plan to snuggle into bed by 11 p.m. at the latest. Goes without saying that giving yourself one hour before bedtime to wind down by turning off phones, computers, TV and other screens by 10 p.m. will also help. My phone has a bedtime setting that shuts calls and activities down at a predetermined time.

The loss of that commute alone can also be an opportunity for you to rest better than ever, helping you become more productive while also boosting your mood and immune system.

WORK

My new work from home schedule is still shaky but I’m keen to maximise my productivity, hence my Outlook diary is filled with colour coded reminders on day to day tasks that would normally be second nature. The experts say it helps to keep the surrounding activities as similar as possible too. E.g. if you walk to and from work or public transport, take a walk around the neighborhood to mimic that habit. If you lunch with a coworker, eat lunch with them via a video call. Why? Because our mind already has deeply embedded patterns, keeping the same schedule allows us to take advantage of already established ways of doing things.

CHILDCARE

Working from home with kids underfoot? Yep, goes without saying a new schedule will be needed for both yourself and your family. Parenting friends say their kids thrive on structure, so developing routines similar to the ones they are used to at school and at daycare will help prevent behavioral issues and promote harmony at home. They say that managing this by setting aside specific times for meals, physical activity, learning, and play helps.

If the kids are old enough to take care of themselves, work with them on a schedule that will make the best use of their time. E.g. If they love their sports, help them come up with a strength and conditioning plan. If they have academic pursuits or hobbies, help them brainstorm ways they can still learn and grow, despite them being kept from their normal activities. For younger babes, organising childcare into shifts that work for both. If unable to split shifts, they are making the most of time before the kids wake, during nap times, or after they go to bed, keeping the less challenging work for when they’re up and about.

EXERCISE

Fitting in physical activity can be easier thanks to the loss of commute times, however, our typical routines are usually built around access to gyms, studios, and pools, most now either barred or shut down. No couch potatoing here thanks to YouTube videos, strength-training with the lentil cans or free weights and daily walks outdoors. Even if unable to practice with your sports team, you can still work on techniques, like kicking a ball or shooting free throws. Another way to handle anxiety, reduce stress and sleep well.

RECHARGE

This one’s essential. Why not replace time spent on social media or watching the news with something that generates true relaxation. It could be exercise, praying, reading, listening to music, spending time with your family, or doing a creative hobby. Mine includes researching 54 ways with Lentils and cooking with my loved one, having deeper conversations and we are both working on exercising mindfulness and giving meditation a go, all wonderful ways of managing these stressful times.

We may not know what the future holds but by giving ourselves a schedule we can still make the most of the present. In fact, I’m off to indulge in a spot of meditation now.

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Kicking ‘to-do’s’ to the kerb

Well, hello, there lovely peoples. Do you love a good old ‘to-do’ list as much as me? I have a tidy little app called ‘Reminders’ which pops up on all my devices serving as a constant…well… ‘reminder’ of all the things I haven’t done. As I stare at it, the angel perched on my left shoulder gently chides…tick off those pesky items, and you can have that glass of Champers sweetheart. The devil on the other swishes his tail and mutters ‘Nah!…pour those bubbles bitch, the list can wait! Yep, it’s time to kick those ‘to-do’s’ to the curb!

Pour those bubbles sweetheart, the list can wait!

Tired of listening to the two of them bickering, I realised drastic measures were required STAT! Always growing, never completed, my lists an essential element of both work and leisure yet oh! So exhaustive. Well, according to entrepreneur Robyn Scott, it doesn’t have to be like this.

Instead of an endless list of tasks, Robyn has a sweet little trick that will completely change how you think about your to-dos. Her suggestion? Make your tasks emotional – create a few categories that appeal to how doing that task makes you feel. For example: “highly helpful” for introductions and advice-giving, “basic decency” for thank you notes and keeping promises, or “massive relief” for tax returns and booking travel

Alex Cavoulacos’ A Mind-Blowing New Way to Think About Your To-Do List‘ (The Muse) suggests making the emotion dramatic. Alex uses headings like ‘triumphant,’ and ‘massive relief,’ for she finds this increases the allure. She also experiments with fun and fear. States or emotions on her list might be positive, or she’ll use terms like ‘avoids a physical and psychological meltdown,’ and it works for her.

‘Kick my Ass’ – kicks procrastination to the curb!

Well, I adopted their suggestions lovely readers. ‘This Week’, This Month’, ‘Goals’ and other mundane titles that blurred into one endless nag have now morphed into a bunch of fun expectations. ‘Reputation Saving‘ takes care of RSVPs, thank you’s, non-urgent responses. ‘Ass Kicking’ kicks exercise procrastination to the curb and ‘Culture Craving’ creates a ‘must book’ that art, theatre, musical event. ‘Money Grabbing‘ gets the coffers topped up with voucher claims, refunds and tax time preparation. ‘Soul Nurturing’ reminds me to take time for me – a massage, facial, coffee with a friend. And more.

My procrastination significantly reduced, and a satisfying tick against each of my emotionally focused items…oh wait? Did I hear the gentle popping of a Champagne cork?

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